Helen, I want to follow your advice about finding friendship in the world, but struggle to do so in my local UK community.
My 4 year old attends the village school, and the mums of her peers all work full time, so I only see them at birthday parties and have very superficial conversations with them.
I have two younger children and have attended local baby classes with them in the hope of meeting like minded mums, but they are largely concerned with returning to work themselves and/or are not on the same level as me intellectually (and rarely politically!), and the snob in me just can’t get any emotional/spiritual satisfaction out of attempting to socialise with them.
I can find plenty of like-minded reactionary feminists/stay at home mothers online, but none nearby (they appear to be largely based in cities). Where are all the IRL counterparts hiding?
Is this just cope on my end to justify socialising only with my family? Do you have advice for any action I could take - obviously your post was filled with tips, but I mean more with regards to FINDING the women I want to surround myself with.
If you can find a Catholic Church near you, this has been the most reliable place to find like minded women in the same state in life. Tap into those fellowship networks if you can. And keep me posted about your experience — good or bad!
Helen, I want to follow your advice about finding friendship in the world, but struggle to do so in my local UK community.
My 4 year old attends the village school, and the mums of her peers all work full time, so I only see them at birthday parties and have very superficial conversations with them.
I have two younger children and have attended local baby classes with them in the hope of meeting like minded mums, but they are largely concerned with returning to work themselves and/or are not on the same level as me intellectually (and rarely politically!), and the snob in me just can’t get any emotional/spiritual satisfaction out of attempting to socialise with them.
I can find plenty of like-minded reactionary feminists/stay at home mothers online, but none nearby (they appear to be largely based in cities). Where are all the IRL counterparts hiding?
Is this just cope on my end to justify socialising only with my family? Do you have advice for any action I could take - obviously your post was filled with tips, but I mean more with regards to FINDING the women I want to surround myself with.
Thank you for being here, AX. I hear you. Let me think a little longer about how I want to answer this. Question: are you religious?
Not religious no, but certainly not “anti” religion either.
If you can find a Catholic Church near you, this has been the most reliable place to find like minded women in the same state in life. Tap into those fellowship networks if you can. And keep me posted about your experience — good or bad!
Have just emailed the local parish priest to get more info - fingers crossed! Thank you for your support and for your beautiful essays ❤️
Awesome ❤️ and thank you for your support!