Call Your Mom #001

ask me anything: a new series!

I get a lot of messages from women who find themselves understandably vexed by the infotainment infohazard that is The Discourse. To say women are getting mixed messages about who and how they should be, or what it means to be “feminine” is an understatement. We are constantly inundated by voices who, because of the nature of the attention economy, are motivated to state their case in the most strident, unforgiving, unrefined terms possible. Spending even a little time online can leave you with the hopeless sense of being damned if you do, damned if you don’t. The tradwife-girlboss content sphere is giving madonna-whore a rebrand, and it’s paralyzing.

These conversations in the DMs often inspire me to think more deeply about the issues that women caught in the middle of this nonsense are really facing. And since leaning into practicality is one of my many goals for this year, I thought bringing them to the fore might be a useful series.

Message me here with your burning questions! Please enjoy Call Your Mom:

Dear Helen,

I am currently 28, and I am going back to school for a career in nursing that I am passionate about. All in God's timing, but I would like to have children in the next few years as well. I find the idea of being in the first few years of my career, while also wanting to have children, very daunting. It seems like there are endless opinions about this (to career or not to career). It seems like I have to decide between the two one day. I have a boyfriend; the relationship is in the beginning stages. He has brought up marriage, wanting a family, and his plans to buy a house. I was wondering what kind of perspective you might have!

Thanks,

Caregiver At Heart

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Dear Caregiver At Heart,